I’ve seen too many guys get into their 40s and 50s and they sleepwalk through the biggies—
birthdays, Christmas.

They go through the motions on Mother’s Day. They miss their kids’ events unless it’s something they’re interested in.

You go to a son’s basketball game but miss the daughter’s dance recital? What kind of message do you think that sends? They justify it by saying they’re working, but providing for your family doesn’t give you an excuse to ignore the big moments or the mundane ones that result in connection with the people closest to you.

Sleepwalking takes many forms.

They zone out in dinner conversations or when their partner is talking to them.

They stay at the office an extra hour or bring an extra two hours of the office home with them.

They stay at the gym an extra 30 minutes for an additional circuit, extra stretching, socializing, or the hot tub rather than coming home.

They eat too much instead of leaving the dinner table to take part in other activities. They grab an extra beer, smoke a little too much pot.

Hey, the buzz is enticing, but there’s a time and a place.

What is so awful about sleepwalking is it’s so condoned, by the individual and even by society.

It’s passive, a bomb waiting to explode with no ticking to give you any warning.

The damage is real, but you can make enough excuses to keep it going for years without detection.

If you’re sleepwalking your way thru life, here’s your wake-up call.