Hey there –
I received a lot of feedback on a video I posted on IG last week where I kinda went off on a rant about “What I’m not doing” (Well not kinda, but more like very much went on a rant…) because it’s what I’m hearing from many of you guys about; that you’re doing too much. Too busy. Overcommitted. Not enough time to do what you really want to be doing. Feeling the pressure to constantly do more, achieve more, be more.
I get it.
It’s easy to over-index. It’s very hard to down-regulate.
In fact, I’m a pro at overdoing things. It actually comes easily and naturally to me to constantly be “doing”.
So, like any muscle, I’ve got to train and develop”The Flex” that allows me to relax. That enables me to create empty space. That permits me to enjoy my free time. That grants me the focus to be productive and not busy.
It’s not what I’m doing, but rather what I’m not doing that has made the difference.
It’s what I stopped doing that allows me to do the things that I actually enjoy doing right now and that I need to do for my health, for my family, for my career, and for myself.
Let that sink in for a minute.
When you stop going to shit you don’t want to go to, when you stop hanging around people that are not good influences, when you replace daytime over going out late at night, when you get to bed an hour earlier, when you wake up an hour earlier, it’s amazing how much time you can find and how much empty space you still have available and how creative you can be in that empty space once you get used to having it.
We get so busy and we mistake busyness for productivity and we lose sight of actually what it is we want to be doing, what we set out to accomplish, what the real goal is, and the end game.
When you write everything down; whether it’s a journal, phone, voice notes and you open up your calendar it’s remarkable what you can do, what you can see, and what becomes obvious when you start actually laying it out.
I cut out a lot of shit to get to this place and I’m only getting started. That’s where the real work is; in what you don’t see.
- Take a breath
- Write down what you want
- Script it out
- Do less with more focus
- Embrace empty space
- choose quality over quantity
- Put family first
- Prioritize health
- Eat well
- Sleep well
- Emphasize experiences over things
- Be smart with your money
- Consistency over intensity
- Simplify & Gratify
- Have fun
This is a constant work in progress for me. It’s a daily commitment I have to make to myself. I fall back constantly and have to recalibrate, re-center, and re-purpose. But that’s where the work comes in. That’s where the payoff to this purpose and process is achieved. If you’re struggling in any way, want to learn more, have a chat, just reach out.
Maybe I can help.
Perhaps we’re a good fit to work together.
You can set up a call HERE
In Health –
G
