“A temple made of bricks is built one brick at a time” ~ Unknown
Every week, no strike that every day I’m hearing from men who are unhappy, dissatisfied, stagnant, and scared. By the way, we’re over 11,000 each week now who are receiving Midlife Male content!
I was one of those men too and for far too long. So, I really try to shy away from using puff pieces and influencer tactics. If you want your advice from a twenty-something-year-old SoulCycle type shouting at you to turn the handle, climb to the top of the mountain, become a warrior, and earn your donut; go for it…
I challenge myself, and YOU to seek out credible, authentic, experienced, like-minded, and NO BS men.
Here’s the cold, hard, unsexy truth from 48 years of reality.
There are no shortcuts and there’s no absolute guarantee for success no matter what you do.
You have got to put the time in, you have got to do the work, you must be consistent, and you must have discipline.
And only then; when you are doing all of these thing’s day in and day out and in the right order do you stand any chance of actually becoming successful and making any of the really hard things in your life look easy.
More often, however, we’re gonna struggle daily and complicate things when what we really need is to keep things simple.
We think we need to do more in order to get more.
We mistake simple for easy when in fact simple is very hard. The resolve (there’s that word again) to do less with more focus is the ultimate challenge.
So, what’s easy?
Failing is easy. You never have to fight through to the other side. You never have to overcome any adversity; you never have to overcome anything.
Quitting is easy. Give up, give in, game over.
Jumping from thing to thing the moment something gets hard is easy.
Saying yes is easy.
So if you want to look at this in the most positive manner possible (and by positive I mean truly sad), I guess you could infer that there are a lot of men out there who are successfully failing at living the life they want.
Here are some questions I think about. And then I ask them to as many men as I can who are much smarter, more successful and seem to be living the life they want so that I can learn something from them. (Shameless plug: Subscribe to the podcast here to listen to these guys!
What if you could make the hard, easier?
What if you could enjoy a sustainable, longevity-based lifestyle that not only gets you where you want to go but one where you don’t dread every day until you get there?
What if you made small changes? The type of small changes that over time lead to big changes.
What if we brought reality rather than reaction into the equation?
What if we brought more experience, capability, some conflict, and more importantly conflict resolution techniques into our lives?
Imagine if you could harmonize your personal life and professional lives?
Consider if there was alignment between your physical health, mental health, and financial health?
Suppose you started liking yourself more, waking up happier, going to bed more content, and sleeping more peacefully?
How would produce a more than consuming feel?
If you were leading by example more than following the crowd what would your energy be like?
What if saying no became more satisfying than saying yes?
If you stopped blaming other people, being angry, resentful, regretful, frustrated, and feeling stuck; how much more time would you have to be productive?
What if you went back to the times when you were feeling, performing, looking, and acting your best and brought all those things back to the front; How would that show up in your daily life?
And if you could reframe your ego and take ownership of it all; how would that resonate?
Here’s what I try and do:
First, set a goal.
Then focus on the simple, small positive actions you can take each day that will get you closer to achieving that goal.
Make each day one of accomplishment. Give yourself credit for completing even the smallest of tasks. Practice optimism as you build consistency, habits, and patterns that make you feel good.
It is all within your reach.
Need help? Want to talk? I’m here.
In Health –
PS: I’m traveling this week with my family and am sharing one of my favorite MLM podcast episodes with y’all so I can get this newsletter complete and scheduled ahead of time. Jeff Mroz is a total stud, has become a good friend, we’re invested in LMNT together and he’s got some exciting projects ahead that I look forward to being involved with as well. The takeaway: Reach out to new people. Surround yourself with those smarter than yourself. Add value where you can. Good things happen.
G
