There’s no canceling Father’s Day. Enough with the bullshit. Enough with the, we can’t celebrate someone without offending someone else.
I’m a father.
It’s the absolute greatest job in the world. It’s my lifelong honor and privilege to be Auden & Harper’s dad. I’m 100% committed to the role, I’m pretty damn good at it AND I’m celebrating it.
But before I get into Father’s Day and make it all about me, I wanted to take the time to thank the woman who made me a father because without Kate the best things in my life don’t exist.
I was fortunate to have had an amazing father myself.
Unfortunately, I didn’t have him for as long as I would have loved. He passed away when I was 17. So as much as I could look to him and his memory for the type of father that I wanted to be to my boys, I really didn’t “get it” back then. I wasn’t in the right headspace. There are way too many questions I didn’t get answered, too many experiences we didn’t get to share, and too many things I didn’t get to learn and have a recall on how my dad handled situations.
I’ve had to learn on the job.
And I’ve had to really look to Kate. To help keep me grounded, make me a better man, support me, call me out when I’ve fallen short, and partner with me so that I could be the kind of father I want to be, the kind of provider, and the kind of example I want to set for my boys.
I am truly blessed in that as much as we love and appreciate one another and while we certainly take each other for granted at times and we’ve both grown, evolved, aged, and changed as individuals from the kids we were 25 years ago, that we’ve managed to maintain a healthy level of respect, camaraderie, empathy, and chemistry and actually still really like one another.
Kate has truly helped to make me the father that I am to my boys.
So when I think about Father’s Day, it always makes me feel fortunate to have had children with the right woman.
As a father you want your kids to be happy. You want to take care of them and for them to be well taken care of. You want them to be well supported. If something did happen to me, you want to know exactly who would take care of them.
So if you ask me what’s the best thing I’ve done as a Father, my answer is simple; it’s to have Kate as our boy’s mother.
HAPPY FATHER’S DAY
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